Here are some tips and tricks to handle the bridesmaid's role with grace.
Be Honest With the Bride About Your Budget
Few people like to talk about personal finances, and many people consider it rude. Particularly where a wedding is concerned, the last thing anyone wants to do is make a friend feel guilty about cost.
But being a bridesmaid can be expensive, and it’s only fair to be honest if the role is simply too costly. If budget constraints present a serious problem, Brides.com recommends sitting down and have a talk with the bride. If the costs are simply out of reach, it’s best to politely decline.
If cost is not a concern, avoid complaining about the bride’s choices of dresses, makeup and the like. After all, it’s her day.
Be a Source of Moral Support
Lifescript, an Internet site for women, says one of the most important roles a bridesmaid can play is being a source of emotional support. Brides are faced with a lot of stress in the days and months leading up to the wedding. They need someone not only to lend an ear from time to time, but to distract them into letting loose and having some fun.
Remember, a bridesmaid’s first role is to be one of the bride’s best friends. If the bride is feeling overwhelmed, take her out for dinner, a movie or a drink to help her de-stress.
Plan the Perfect Bridal Shower
It’s not only the maid of honor that’s responsible for throwing a bridal shower these days. The entire bridal party usually works together to pull off the perfect event. In order to make sure everything goes smoothly, start planning the event at least three months in advance. Don’t be afraid to talk to the bride about what envisions – after all, it’s imperative that the guest of honor has a great time.
To avoid the awkward situation of forgetting to invite people who are important to the bride, review the guest list with her before sending out invitations. Sure, you don’t want the bride to know every detail of the event in advance. But it’s definitely not taboo to talk to her about the guest list. Be sure to check with coworkers and family to find out if they want to plan a joint event or throw separate showers.
Get the Bachelorette Party Right
Lifescript also has some great advice for planning the bachelorette party. Again, it’s not a bad idea to consult the bride about the guest list. And as a general rule, guests should be close to the bride in age (don’t forget sisters and cousins). Unless the bride specifically requests that her mother and future mother-in-law attend, it’s okay not to invite them.
Choosing a venue is a decision that should be based entirely on the bride’s personality. If she’s always wanted a big blowout in Vegas, at least consider it. If she’s not a big drinker and prefers a low-key night, respect her wishes. When planning a bachelorette party, it’s also important to consider the budget of all of the bridesmaids. Don’t plan an event that will price some of them out.
Get the Party Started
A bridesmaid’s duties don’t end with “I do.” According to The Dessy Group, a company that manufactures bridal and bridesmaid gowns, a bridesmaid is also responsible for duties like making sure guests move quickly and smoothly through the receiving line while still getting a chance to greet the bride and groom.
Bridesmaids are also expected to be the first people out on the dance floor at the reception – whether they like the song selection or not. The point is to serve as cheerleaders for the event, getting other guests in the spirit.
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